Do you find yourself daydreaming about how your relationship is almost perfect? Thinking to yourself: I don’t see how we could possibly grow any closer. Things are so good. Even if you answered yes to the above, your relationship could still benefit from relationship therapy. Relationship therapy can be helpful for all types of relationships, including polyamorous relationships, consensual non-monogamy, and kink. In relationship therapy, also known as couples counseling, or marriage counseling, you will discover how to continue growing closer. You will learn how to weather the worst of those storms that form on the horizon and how to move forward toward a better, more supportive relationship. If your answer was a bit less positive there is great help awaiting you in the welcoming, understanding care of a couple’s counselor.
Are you able to look back and see the small series of choices you made that put you on the path you are on today? Your therapist can show you a means to identify those choice points as they happen and help you direct your own path towards a healthy, more loving relationship. A good couple’s counselor will accept you as you are today and help you form a conscious awareness of your actions and how they can lead to a more secure, loving relationship.
Do you sometimes feel like your fights all start in one place and somehow always end up in another? Does it seem like you keep having the same argument? Almost as if your arguments are like an extra person in the relationship, they seem familiar yet almost impossible to keep out of the conversation. Worse yet, it’s as if that extra person doesn’t want the relationship to succeed. A relationship counselor will demonstrate for you and work with you on how to put that “extra person” aside and begin once again speaking to and hearing from each other’s true feelings. Relationship therapy can help you be a team again.
Your counselor will be able to empower you to take charge of the direction that your relationship takes. When you and your partner(s) are in the driver’s seat in your relationship you work as a team to address anything that gets in the way of feeling lovingly connected and secure. This leads to more trust, a deeper, more secure connection, and deeper intimacy. In other words…more snuggling, less fighting!
Couples counseling is:
- A safe place to be vulnerable – Neutral, Structured, Educational
- A way to grow within the relationship
- A blame-free way of owning up for your mistakes
- About acceptance and healing from the past in a self-affirming, empowering manner
There is an old saying: There is no courage without fear. In relationships: There is no intimacy without vulnerability. Feeling safe and secure enough within your relationship to be vulnerable is the key to deeper intimacy and connection. A good couple’s counselor can work with you to help you lean into vulnerability and meet each other with acceptance, openness and love. This will help you move toward a deeper, more connected relationship.
Can relationship therapy make your relationship better, the short answer is yes. Coincidentally, the long answer is also yes. Relationship therapy is an aid to every relationship.
