Tips for Dealing with Anxiety and Calming the Anxious Mind

Tips for dealing with anxiety: 1)      Get Present!  Anxious thoughts often are a result of concerns for the future.  We are thinking about what might happen, what we should or shouldn’t have done.  Becoming aware of the present moment can be a good antidote to these spinning thoughts and worries.  To do this, bring your […]

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6 Signals That it Might Be Time for Couples Therapy – Stopping Molehills From Becoming Mountains

I recently read a statistic indicating that couples wait an average of 6 years before seeking help once they notice problems in their relationship.  Six years!!! By that time the problems that started off as little molehills are full-blown, snow covered, mountains.  I think that part of the reason for this is the stigma attached […]

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Valentine’s Day Gifts

Are you thinking about Valentine’s Day Gifts for your partner? I am a big proponent of shared experiences over gifts.  Thinking back over my life there are very few gifts that I remember as bringing me great sustained joy.  On the other hand memories of experiences that I have had always bring me smiles and […]

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Staying the Course – Authenticity

Some of us, as children, were taught that we weren’t enough, that we had to do more, always do more, so that we could make things happen, be enough, keep all of the plates spinning in the air.  And perhaps in our early home life this worked to get us the attention we needed from […]

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Let Go

Have you noticed that you are white knuckling your relationship, your job or your home life?  Holding on as tight as you can and trying to fit it all into your notions of how it should be?  Have you ever looked at your hands during the physical act of holding on like this?  Have you […]

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The Power of NO or Standing Up For Ourselves

What do we say when we mean to say NO? Do we flat out say the actual word NO?  In a world that teaches us to be nice are we even taught how to say NO?  The ability to say NO and to say YES are fundamental to our ability to live an authentic life.  […]

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Feel Happier…Release Expectations

“What screws us up most in life is the picture in our head of how it’s supposed to be” (unknown).  I recently bought that statement on a plaque while I was on vacation.  I carted it across the country in my suitcase to hang it on my wall.  I believe quite strongly in the power […]

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Be Nice!

Be nice, be nice, we are told when we are children. The message is that it isn’t nice to speak our truth. Speaking up, speaking out isn’t nice behavior. We learn to stifle our inner voice and go along with what is going on around us. As adults this can translate into saying yes when […]

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